With all the excitement and nervousness that comes with being the Best Man it is quite understandable to forget a tiny minute detail. However, bear in mind that any detail forgotten by the Best Man could have severe implications on the Big Day itself. Could you imagine for example arriving at the church having forgotten the rings?, or standing up to give your speech when that gulp reaches deep in your throat as you have realized that your speech is left behind in your hotel ? Or it may be that on the morning of the wedding you cannot locate one of your Groomsmen who you last saw holding court in the bar at 1am. My role here is not to further induce nerves or pressure for your job as Best Man but merely to ensure that you realize that being Best Man entails more than giving a speech and organizing a Bachelor Party.

Here is my essential guide for your duties and expected responsibilities in your role as Best Man:

  • Organize the Bachelor Party
  • Ensure that the Groomsmen arrive for the measuring of the suits
  • Ensure that the Groomsmen arrive for the dress rehearsal
  • Liaise with the Groom regarding tips for the priest, flowergirl, limo-drivers and whomever else that the Groom wants to be tipped. Keep each in a separate envelope to hand out at the appropriate moment
  • Co-ordinate with the Groomsmen the collection and safe deposit of gifts
  • Gather the respective individuals required for the photographs
  • At hotel check to see if any emails or faxes have arrived for the wedding party, if so incorporate them into your speech
  • Dance with the Maid of Honor along with the mothers of both the Bride and Groom

At this stage you must be thinking hold on, it can’t be that easy, isn’t there something else? and indeed you would be right, there are actually 2 more points to add;

The Ring, we know it’s a cliche but just don’t forget it. Keep it safe and have it readily available when it comes time to part with it

The Speech, most Best Men dread this part but if you regularly watch for my posts here, you will look forward to the speech with infectious enthusiasm knowing that you have all the tools to give a Best Man speech that will garner a standing ovation.